Think about a cloudy, overcast, cold & wet day.
Think about how GREY it is.
Think about how DEPRESSING it is.
That’s what your life will be like if you allow the toxins in your life to stay there –
The toxic people
The toxic thoughts
The toxic experiences
The toxic activities
It must be eliminated from your life. All of it!
These toxins are guaranteed to slow you down, hold you back, and thwart any progress you’ve made thus far. They will continue to be tapping you on the shoulder, trying to get you to throw in the towel and just give up already.
I guarantee there are some toxins in your life right now. And you know this, too.
There are some toxic people you haven’t pushed away because you’d feel guilty if you did. People who don’t support you fully, who question everything you say or do, who try to get you to follow their rules instead of your own. This is the definition of a toxic person and they need to go, which yes, can be really hard for you to do, especially if this person is a family member!
I know women who have divorced their husbands because that person was a toxic influence.
I know others who don’t speak to their parents anymore because they weren’t supportive.
And I’m grateful that I do have a supportive husband and supportive family, but I know without a doubt in my mind that if they WEREN’T supportive, and they became toxins in my life, they’d be gone in an instant. Because I value myself too much to allow someone else to bring me down.
I bet you’re thinking about a specific person right now, aren’t you? Someone you know you need to let go of, but haven’t been able to because you don’t want to hurt them, or you’re worried about what they might say. But do you think it’s fair that you have to suffer to make someone else happy? Wouldn’t you rather you BOTH being happy?
This can only happen if you set some boundaries in your life. If you let people know that you simply won’t tolerate negativity, you won’t tolerate judgments, you won’t tolerate anything less than complete and utter support (which you would give to them, too, of course!). You need to make that commitment to yourself.
Because let me tell you –
When you eliminate the toxins from your life, you leave space for greatness. Greatness that will increase your productivity, increase your level of happiness, and overall, you will become a better person and enjoy your life a hell of a lot more!
Toxic people have to go. No questions.
As do toxic experiences and activities.
Refuse to participate in any activity that is going to put you into the wrong mindset (a mindset of lack, of greed, of fear) and/or make you do things you know are not right or will hurt you physically or mentally.
Avoid gossiping.
Avoid back-stabbing.
Avoid trash talking.
Avoid complaining.
Avoid worrying.
Avoid watching the news.
Just avoid it. All of it. AVOID IT LIKE THE FUCKING PLAGUE. Because that shit right there? It will tear you down. It will consume you fully, which means your potential to grow and do and experience positive things will dwindle.
If someone tries to get you to engage in any of these activities, politely decline and change the subject. Move on to something else.
And if you’re in a situation where you don’t have a say in the matter (for example, you’re at a coffee shop or restaraunt and they have the news on), get out of that situation. Switch tables at the restaraunt, leave the coffee shop (or sit outside). Whatever you do, don’t allow those activities to happen around you and do NOT participate in any of them.
As for worrying –
Because yes, you WILL worry from time to time, since you’re human (I think?) and that’s what humans do –
Explore the worry. Journal about it. Ask what you’re REALLY worried about it. Set some positive affirmations for yourself and say them or write them repeatedly until they start to feel real. Don’t wallow in worry. Give yourself a few minutes to explore it, and then get the fuck over it! If you’re worried about something, you’re focused on the negative, and what you focus on becomes your reality, which is exactly what you were worried about!
Affirm that your worries are unfounded and move on.
Last but not least, eliminate the toxic thoughts from your life. All the negative shit that’s in your head, it needs to GO. And again, because you’re human, you will have negative thoughts. But the good news is that you can decide whether or not you want to continue with a particular thought, or you want to change it to something more positive.
Yes, it’s that simple.
Just change your mind.
“Ugh, I can’t believe she’s doing better than me. Her videos are awful and her content sucks!” might pop into your head when you feel jealousy around someone else’s success.
Instead of beating yourself up AND beating the other person up in your head (negative thoughts), you just need to attack that thought head-on:
“No, I will not say that. That’s not true. I am happy for her. If she can do it, so can I. And her videos and content may not be for me, but she is helping a lot of people with them and that’s a great thing. I’m going to do that for my community, too. I’m glad I saw that she was doing so well because now I know what’s possible for me.”
See how much better that sounds? You instantly flipped the negative/toxic thought into a positive one, which will allow you to then go on and have a positive day/night/afternoon/whatever, instead of allowing the toxic thought in your head to make you more and more frustrated and angry, which, as I’m sure you know, will NOT lead to any type of positive result for you!
For the sake of yourself
Your business
Your mindset
RUTHLESSLY ELIMINATE THE TOXINS FROM YOUR LIFE.
This is a daily practice. You have to be aware. You have to pay attention, because sometimes those toxins can slowly creep back into your life once you eliminate them.
Protect yourself against toxins just like you would protect yourself against illness, probably MORE so, because those toxins can and will turn into huge illnesses if you ignore them and don’t eliminate yourself. Only those illnesses don’t have an over-the-counter medicine you can take to combat them.
Do the work now.
Do the work every day.
Maintain it.
Eliminate the toxins.
Embrace the greatness.
Don’t forget –
You really can be, do and have EVERYTHING you want. Take action now!