I’m DONE allowing others to control my feelings.
I’m DONE letting someone else tell me what is possible.
I’m DONE ignoring my own desires, no matter how crazy they may seem to another person.
I’m DONE indulging in the opinions of others.
I’m DONE being ridiculed for what I want, how I think, who I am.
I won’t let another person push me over the edge of uncertainty. I will make my own decisions based on my intuition, my gut, my CORE.
I won’t let someone tear me down because I spent money on myself instead of saving it. Saving it for what? What the fuck am I saving it for? For when I’m old and gray and retired and BORED AS FUCK?
No thank you.
I’m going to live my life NOW. I’m smart with my money, of course. I won’t neglect paying for or investing in things that are necessary, such as food for my family, a roof over our heads, and items my kids need to thrive.
I won’t neglect what’s important.
I will also not neglect what my core desires are, which are ABSOLUTELY important.
Not now, not ever. I am more important than ANYONE. Yes, even more important than my husband, even more important than my kids. I AM #1 IN MY LIFE.
And if I am taken care of, my desires are met, my soul is on fire, then I am so much more able to take incredible care of my family.
But I come first. Always.
I’m sure that sounds selfish to some, and sure, maybe I am selfish. But I am happily selfish. I am happy to admit that I am always going to be #1 in my life.
People aren’t always going to agree with me. And that’s okay. Not everyone can be this awesome. 😉
When I picked up my Cadillac yesterday and I shared a picture of myself in front of it, proud and EXCITED about what I was able to do for myself, I received many congratulatory messages, which was amazing -
And I also received some not so nice messages.
“Why would you waste your money on that?”
“You’re incredibly selfish for buying a vehicle like that when your kids are so young and they are watching what you spend your money on, what a terrible example you are setting for them.”
“That thing is going to be a beast on gas.”
“I can’t believe you paid that much for a car, you’re crazy.”
Not that care what these people think, obviously. 🙂
I realize that what I purchased is extravagant. It’s huge. It’s “unnecessary”.
But guess what –
I DON’T FUCKING CARE.
Because I wanted it. I worked for it. And hell yes, I deserve it.
I don’t have to justify my actions to ANYONE, but one thing I wanted to make crystal clear is this -
You deserve to spoil yourself. In fact, you are REQUIRED to spoil yourself. If you want to be successful, you want to be rich, you want to rule the world, you need to take care of YOU.
And sometimes that means spending $65,000 on a vehicle just because it makes you feel good everytime you look at it, and every time you drive it you feel like a fucking badass.
When you FEEL good, when you feel AMAZING, you produce amazing work. When you produce amazing work, you make amazing money.
So there you go. You have permission to spend crazy amounts of money on ANYTHING that makes you feel good and helps you to uplevel your life. So you can then, in turn, uplevel your income.
I’m telling you to dig yourself into a hole of debt. I’m also not saying that debt is bad, because I believe that sometimes debt is necessary to get where you want to go. I’m not anti-debt. I’m anti-living. And let’s face it - you’re not really living if you’re struggling and settling.
I made over $75,000 last month because I was focused on making this dream of mine - this Cadillac dream - a reality.
I worked my ass off, yes, but I also made sure I was working on the right things.
I was focused on doing the right things, the right way, at the right time.
I wasn’t just doing all the busywork that so many people waste their time on and end up getting nowhere with. And even though I spent upwards of 12 hours a day on Facebook, I wasn’t scrolling the newsfeed or looking up photos of my ex-boyfriends. I WAS WORKING.
I was hustling. I was getting shit done that needed to be done.
I was 100% focused on my goal of buying my Cadillac. I was focused on that goal every single day, all day.
And I turned that focus into MONEY. And that money bought me something I’ve been dreaming over for over 10 years. Something I never thought I’d own because it was “a beast on gas” and “wasteful”
Something that now sits in my driveway and makes me happy every time I look at it (not that I go outside and stare at it multiple times a day or anything… *cough*).
Sure, it’s “just a car” to most.
To me, it’s a symbol of stregth. Of determination. Of courage. Of focus. Of that winning attitude we all need if we ever want to achieve ANYTHING in our lives.
And to me, it was the best money I’ve ever spent. On anything. And I am fucking proud of myself for having that strong focus to make it happen (in less than 2 months).