After speaking with my clients, there seems to be a theme happening this week…
A general fear of not being liked.
And I realize that this is a common fear for many people, myself included sometimes, but here’s the thing you really need to realize –
If you can’t show up AUTHENTICALLY as YOU, and you are scared of being different from others that are out there, you will never TRULY succeed because you will be faking it. You’ll be putting on the show you THINK people want to watch, when in reality, it’s a show you don’t want to star in.
And sure, you can make a money doing this. Being the “perfect” person you believe people want to see. You can make money showing up as this cookie-cutter version of yourself that does and says what she’s “supposed to”, instead of what she WANTS TO.
And if money is your only motivation, then hey –
There’s nothing I can say or do to stop you.
But if you want to actually have an impact on those around you, then you need to stop being such a pussy and start being YOURSELF, regardless of whatever anyone else may think of who you are.
Because you ARE different, and that’s actually a GOOD THING! Think about it –
Do you want to keep meeting the same type of person over and over and over again, or are you going to get bored out of your mind and start going absolutely mental? No one wants to know 50 of the same person. That’s insanity.
We want to have a variety of DIFFERENT people in our life.
We want people to be 100% THEMSELVES.
We don’t actually want to be LIED TO.
We don’t want you to fake it.
We don’t want to have to figure out if you’re pretending or if you’re being serious every time you open your mouth.
That’s just too much fucking work and we don’t have time for that shit (and neither should you!).
I’ve been down that rabbit hole of trying to be someone I’m not and I can’t even tell you just how STRESSFUL it is! It takes SO much energy to keep up the facade, there are so many lies you have to keep straight, it’s frustrating, it’s boring, and you go to bed and feel like a complete and utter fraud (because you are)…
Do you really think that you’ll be able to make money this way? To be successful this way?
You can’t. Not easily anyway. It takes twice as much time and energy to pretend to be someone you’re not, because you’re essentially doing the work of TWO people (being yourself in front of family and friends, being someone else in front of your online community).
It’s really fucking challenging to be two people at the same time, let me tell you!
The easiest and most enjoyable way to make life and business fun and easy is to simply BE YOU. 100% you.
Don’t lie
Don’t hide anything
Don’t try to cover things (or you) up
Don’t avoid us
Don’t try to be perfect
That’s not what we want!
We want YOU to be YOU! That’s it. Being different is cool. Being different is exciting. Being different is JUST WHAT WE’RE LOOKING FOR.
So please be different!
Cookie-cutter versions of you aren’t accepted, aren’t appreciated, aren’t believed and aren’t loved.
You want to get out of your own head, you want to accept that, yeah, some people won’t like the real you and that that is OKAY, and you need to just show the fuck up as yourself and no one else, regardless.
Because if I’m being honest –
People can seriously tell if you’re not being yourself.
Whether that there is something “off” with you.
Or something doesn’t “feel right”.
Or you “seem different” (and not in a good way).
People could tell with me.
I can tell with others.
And your community can tell with you.
Don’t you think would be 100x better, more enjoyable, if you could just be yourself all the time? This is exactly what happens when you drop the facade, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and be willing to accept who you truly are at the core.
What are you really scared of anyway?
That people won’t like you? They’ll think you’re not good enough? They’ll think you’re egotisical, mean or don’t know what you’re talking about?
Guess what –
That will happen anyway, regardless of if you’re being yourself or not. So you’d might as well just be YOU. It’s way easier and way more fun anyway. 🙂
Don’t forget –
This is your time. Take action NOW!