When I was young, one of the things that my mom always said to me was that I needed to find a “rich man” to marry.
I needed a “rich man” to be happy.
I needed a “rich man” to care care of me.
I needed a “rich man” to provide for me.
I needed a “rich man” to complete me.
And while I was young, I believed her. Of course, boys were gross at the time, so I’m sure it was a challange thinking that I would one day need to marry one of those creeps.
It wasn’t until I became a teenager that I realized I didn’t actually WANT to marry a “rich man”. I wanted to marry a man I LOVED. And I wanted to be the one who was rich!
Not much has changed since then.
I still want to be the breadwinner in our family.
I still want to take care of myself.
I still want to provide for myself.
And I still want to do it all on my own.
I want to do this because I know the POWER that I feel when I do. I know how incredible it feels to pay for something that I, myself, earned money for. I know what it’s like to purchase something without having to ask anyone else for permission to do so.
I love that freedom.
That’s why I decided years ago that I would dedicate my life to helping other women take control of their money so that they could care for themselves, too, instead of relying on someone else to take care of them.
I now spend my days teaching women entrepreneurs how to make money and make more than enough to fully support themselves and more. Providing them with the knowledge necessary to have that financial abundance and life a freedom-based lifestyle.
And sometimes I have days like today, where I look back at my life and realize how far I’ve come with my own finances –
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Over $20,000 in debt
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Living in a home we couldn’t afford
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Having to sell my business that I loved to pay the bills
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Buying all kinds of STUFF just to impress others instead of impressing myself
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Becoming an extreme couponer, and one of the best in Canada, and secretly hating it
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Aquiring tens of thousands of dollars worth of free products and throwing most of it out because it went bad or we didn’t like it
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Hiring multiple team members and needing to let a bunch of them go because the money just wasn’t coming in as quickly as before
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Having to sell stuff around my house just to pay the bills
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Consider selling our puppy because we needed the money
And now –
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Enjoying organic groceries every day
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Not needing to look at price tags when I shop
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A home that we OWN and that doesn’t have much in way of mortgage payments left on it
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Downsizing and getting rid of all the crap we bought but didn’t need or love
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Purchasing my dream vehicle that I’ve wanted for more than a decade, just a few months after deciding I was going to buy it
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Travelling first class almost every time I fly
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Only staying in the best hotels and homes when I travel
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Being able to donate to my favourite charities every month
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Keeping the puppy we considered selling 🙂
The thing I realized is that it’s way more fun making my OWN money than spending someone else’s.
I love being the BOSS and taking control.
It’s exciting to me, knowing that I can create whatever wealth I want, and all I have to do is show up as MYSELF to make it.
You and I are the same in that regard.
WE are the boss.
WE call the shots.
And WE definitely don’t need a “rich man” to take care of us.
We can take care of ourselves, thank you very much!
We do the work, we make shit happen, and so we bring in the money. US. WE DO. Not a MAN.
In fact, just the THOUGHT of a man making more than us makes us cringe. Maybe that’s our competitive spirit talking, but we always want to come out on top!
Us ladies
Us leaders
Us powerful women
We can do what we want, when we want, how we want, and we can make however MUCH we want just doing it!
I’m sorry mom, but the “rich man” isn’t something I want (except for my husband.. who’s name is Rich.. and who is a man… hmmm). I’ll take it from here, thanks!
The point I’m trying to make here is that we don’t need ANYONE. We can do this ourselves. Provide for ourselves, spoil ourselves and others. We have the power to create the wealth we want in our lives. Just because we have a vagina, doesn’t mean we can’t make as much money as men. In fact, we make MORE because of it (vaginas are powerful, haven’t you heard?).
So today, ask yourself –
Do I want to be provided for?
Or do I want to call the fucking shots and lead my life?
If you’re one of US, I know which answer you chose I applaud you.
Now get out there and HUSTLE!
Don’t forget –
Kick ass, take names, repeat - all day, and every day.