by Cassie Howard | Aug 22, 2017 | Blogging |
I USED TO BE AFRAID TO SHOW UP AND BE MYSELF. You too? I would hide myself. My true self. My life has been all kinds of crazy, something I used to be embarassed of, but now embrace fully. In grade school, I took up smoking to be cool. It didn’t work. I was always lame. I flirted with boys I didn’t like because I didn’t want to be called a prude. I hung out with people who were evil fucking humans because they were popular. I bit my tongue when I heard other people talking smack about someone else, instead of defending them. I saw people being taken advantage of and said nothing. I didn’t want to be a “rat”. I said and did things that make me sick to my stomach. I was a total fucking hyprocrite for years, saying I was SO against the things I was secretly doing behind closed doors. I drank Peach Schnapps straight from the bottle in the basement of someone’s house I didn’t know. I walked the streets all night with a friend nightly, often barefoot, hiding in ditches when we saw car lights headed our way, to avoid being snatched and assaulted. I met strange men in person that I’d only ever talked to online, a lot of the time I’d only ever spoken to them once. One time I ended up at someone’s apartment and found a gun under the pillow on their bed. I kept visiting him. I went to a news reporter’s home, by myself, with his camera man, and he filmed me in his living room. He thankfully didn’t...
by Cassie Howard | Aug 14, 2017 | Blogging |
Sometimes it makes me sad that so many people just don’t GET us and what we do. How all we wanna do is wake up, be ourselves, and share our message with the world. We just want to be who we are and be loved for that. We want to change the world with our words and our actions. We want to encourage others and make a difference. Yet they think we sit at home and binge on Netflix and Facebook all day, don’t they? That couldn’t be further from the truth, and I know you feel me on that! I know how hard you work. I see you every day, showing up, saying something, being present. I KNOW that you’re busting your ass. I KNOW that you are so gung-ho for this. I KNOW you want it. It, being the success, the impact, the money, and the fame, of course. 🙂 And it’s not always easy being us, now is it? It’s not always easy saying what’s on our mind, because we know that no matter what we say, someone won’t be happy with us. Someone will be angry. Someone will be silently (or not-so-silently) judging us. It’s not easy knowing that we can’t be loved by everyone. But still we try, don’t we? It’s not always easy doing the “work”. Showing up day after day, writing, speaking, creating, messaging, selling, delivering.. It’s fun, yes. But easy? Not always. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is turn on your laptop, or get on camera, or even call someone you’re normally excited to call and speak to. Sometimes you just...
by Cassie Howard | Aug 1, 2017 | Blogging |
When are you going to get over your fear of showing up as your SELF and just playing that out with EASE? Aren;t you feeling sick and tired of faking it? Of hiding? Of pretending? Let me just tell you – That’s the fast track to hell. In terms of how your life feels, anyway. 🙂 Believe me when I say that not only is it EASIER to just be you, but it ends up working out in your favour, too. Because listen: We don’t want the fake you. We want the real you. We want the flawed you. We want the fucked up you. We want the misunderstood you. We want YOU, the way you are right now. I had a call with one of my kickass private clients today and she asked me how I’m able to be so honest all the time. My answer was simple: “There’s no other way to live.” Honesty will attract your soulmate peeps, your soulmate clients, your soulmate TRIBE. Honesty is easy. Honesty isn’t something you have to think about. You just open your heart, open your mouth, and pour your fucking soul out. THAT is what creates the connection between you and those who end up ADORING you, loving your work, buying from you, learning from you, and being impacted by you and your words. You are an inspiration right now, just as you are. Know that. Believe that. And act from that place. And can I just say? When you’re faking it and not being you, we can tell. And I’m sorry, but it’s SAD. Pathetic, even. We can see right through...
by Cassie Howard | Jul 31, 2017 | Business Basics |
Here’s something for you to imagine – WHEN YOU GET TO THE PARTY AND EVERYONE’S LIKE “UH, WHO IS SHE?” Dun dun dun. No one knows who you are. Which makes you unapproachable, which leaves you broke. You don’t want to be the person who shows up to a party (online OR offline) only to be completely ignored because no one has a damn clue who you are. Now, I’m not saying that if you’re new to the scene and you start showing up that people will ignore you. There are nice people in the world that will welcome you with open arms. But those open arms don’t translate to fists full of cash. Not right away, anyway. That’s why it’s so important to practice the ART of showing up. When I first started coaching, my initial plan to was to DOMINATE the industry. I wanted to be on every social media platform, in every group, in everyone’s inbox. The goal was to FLOOD their screens with me and my message. Did I do that? In a sense. But I lost steam because I didn’t know how to show up properly. And so, I spent over a year trying to figure out how the hell to show up as ME, and make money from doing so (instead of just giving all my shit away for free and then asking people to hire me). Thankfully, I’ve figured it out. You don’t get to choose when to show up if you want to make an impact. You don’t get to choose when to show up if you want to make amazing money. You don’t...
by Cassie Howard | Jul 30, 2017 | Goals |
I’ve been thinking lately about what happiness looks like to me, and it’s nothing like what I THOUGHT it was back when I was a kid, looking at others and observing what appeared to make them happy. Happy is not having a “well-paying job”. Happy is not having “good kids”. Happy is not living in your “dream house”. Those things can be a PART of your happy, but just having one or two of those things is not, can not, will not ever make you happy. Because in fact, MANY things make you happy. Many things contribute to your happiness. You’re just not noticing or acknowledging them. But one thing I’ve learned, and what I really want you to remember is that nothing can make you happy unless you know how to observe and acknowledge the feeling of what happy is. So before you can even consider what PEOPLE make you happy, what THINGS make you happy, what EXPERIENCES make you happy, you first have to recognize what happy actually feels and looks like. To me, happiness is when your face changes from somber to “HOLY FUCKING SHIT, IS THIS REAL LIFE?!”. To me, happiness is when you hear or see someone do something negative, and 0.1 seconds later you’ve forgotten about it because you are surrounded by so much HAPPINESS, that your brain immediately dismisses everything but that. To me, happiness is when you wake up feeling EXCITED, looking forward to the day, practically jumping out of bed, instead of feeling anxious and overwhelmed before your feet ever even hit the floor. Do you know what happiness looks like...
