by Cassie Howard | Dec 20, 2016 | Blogging |
I spent all of yesterday completely offline (for the most part), something I never do, to try and deal with the loss of our precious pooch. It wasn’t the being offline part that was hard for me. What was hard was dealing with the overwhelming sadness and trying not to let it completely take over. I remember lying with my husband, crying, and I just said “I don’t know how to be happy right now”, like I was trying to force myself to “get over it” and be happy already. I was so impatient with myself. He responded with the exact words I needed to hear: “then just be sad for now, you’re allowed to be sad“. And it hit me like a ton of bricks. I had to be sad. I had to allow myself to feel that feeling, as much as I didn’t want to. I knew that if I resisted it, if I tried to push those feelings of sadness away, that they would come back and destroy me later. So I was sad. All day. I tried to distract myself with happy Christmas movies and gift wrapping, but it was temporary. As soon as the movies were over and the wrapping was done, I was sad again. I laid in bed and cried for over an hour. I cried every time I walked past something that reminded me of our big, crazy dog we had to let go of earlier that morning. By 6 in the evening, my body was begging me to go to sleep. I forgot just how physically exhausting it is to...
by Cassie Howard | Dec 18, 2016 | Business Basics |
Some days you’re gonna want to give up. Some days you’re gonna scream and cry and throw your hands up in the air, screaming FUCK IT at the top of your lungs. Some days nothing is gonna make sense at all. Some days you’ll be confused, scared, overwhelmed, and just plain fed up. Some days you won’t want to keep going. And these days? All of these days? They’re TESTS. Remember that. You’re being tested to see if what you asked for is REALLY what you want. Are you REALLY willing to endure the bad times so you can experience the good times? Are you REALLY willing to do what’s hard, what’s scary, what’s unknown, so you can enjoy reaching your goals? I wish I could lie to you and say that building an empire is easy. I would I could just say “do what you love and and the money will come” - because yeah NO, that isn’t even CLOSE to being true. You know how you get to experience success? Let’s break it down – 10 WAYS TO EXPERIENCE SUCCESS IN LIFE AND BUSINESS Here we go: 1. Be willing to get dirty. Do the hard work. Put in the HUSTLE, the heart, the grinding it out until you get what you want. 2. Take responsibility for where you are. No one is responsible for your success OR your failures except for you. So stop blaming your boss, the government, your partner… it’s on YOU to find success and live it. Do what you need to do and fuck anyone who tries to get in your way....
by Cassie Howard | Dec 17, 2016 | Work At Home Mom |
Sometimes I wonder if getting up early is necessary, especially on weekends. My brain fights me, telling me, “it’s the weekend, it’s okay to sleep in a little!”, and my gut tries to scream louder that “you will regret it if you sleep in even 5 minutes later than normal!”. And every day, it’s a constant struggle of back and forth. Who’s gonna win? I’m always weighing the pros and cons of each, even though I just KNOW the right answer for me. I know that waking up early is ALWAYS the best idea, is always what I SHOULD do, is always what will make me happiest in the end. But every day, I still weigh the pros and cons. Every day I still have someone or something telling me it’s OKAY to go the other way. Every morning I sleep in even 5 minutes later than normal, I regret it. Every time. Every morning that I let my head win over my gut, I regret it. Every morning when I turn my alarm off and roll over for “5 more minues” (that turn into 60 or more), I regret it. Because I know that, for me, I NEED to be awake early. I NEED that silent, private time in the morning, whether it’s the weekend or a weekday, it doesn’t matter. I know that when I wake up early, I accomplish more, I have lots of time with my journal (which shapes the way my day ends up), I have more time with my money work (which allows me to bring in more), I have more time with my...
by Cassie Howard | Dec 16, 2016 | Business Basics |
There are going to be times in your life when you know you need to make a change. Maybe many changes all at once, or just one change here and there. But change? It’s inevitable. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing. There is a change I’ve needed to make for almost a year now. Something that deep down, I know I need to make, but I’ve been scared. Scared of the unknown. Scared about whether or not it will end up costing me a fuckton of money. Scared about how much work it will require to change. Scared about the fact that I just don’t KNOW if it will be worth it to do. Well, that’s not true, I suppose, because in my gut, I know I HAVE to do this. But it still feels scary. And kind of like I failed. So it’s embarrassing to even admit, which is probably why I haven’t made this change earlier. I’ve been saying to myself since January of last year that I really despise the name of my group, Babes in Business. I’m just not a “babe” type of girl. That has never really been my thing. I don’t know why I even went with the name BABE when I first started the group. And now I have an amazing membership site that I love, but with the name “babe” in it. And I have an apparel and accessory company with the name “babe” in it. And they just make me feel gross. The name is just SO not me at all and it makes me cringe. So today, I decided...
by Cassie Howard | Dec 15, 2016 | Blogging |
Last night I was having a conversation with my husband about a really popular hedge fund guy who works like a fucking mad man and hustles HARD all the time during “work time” and then “shuts it off” when he’s “done” and work hours are over, and is able to completely relax and do nothing. And the whole time he was telling me this story, my mouth was on the ground, like “how can you shut it off?”. I legitimately just did NOT understand. I was not born to shut it off. I was not created and put on this earth to work really hard and then relax. Nor do I want that. It sounds like incredible TORTURE to me. Relaxing is boring as hell. I get antsy and irritable when someone tries to get me to take a break and relax. And I realize that not many people think like this. But those who do, are often the ones who are making more magic happen in their lives, and definetely faster than those who love to work hard, then take a BREAK. I DO believe self-care is important. I DO believe you need to sleep (but we don’t ALL need 8+ hours!). I DO believe you need to take time for YOU. But in no way do I believe that you need to completely “shut things off” and take hours or even days off. AHHHH, that makes me feel gross just thinking about it. And this feeling is coming up a lot more now that it’s the holiday season and people are booking “vacations” and batching content for their businesses so...
