by Cassie Howard | Mar 24, 2017 | Blogging |
I was always afraid of being myself. I thought people would hate the real me. They’d think I was too much. Too loud Too opinionated Too vulgar Too bold Too direct Too intense I don’t like it when people don’t like me or don’t agree with me. It makes me crazy! So I try to please everyone, even though I know it’s an impossible task. I’ve realized that in trying to please everyone, I end up turning into one of them.. The dreaded – NORMALS. *shudder* When you try to please everyone, you end up conforming to BE like everyone else. Like all the NORMAL people. Instead of just being YOU! And you, my friend, are NOT normal! You are loud You are opinionated You are vulgar You are bold You are direct You are intense You are a badass boss and people need to either accept you for who you are or disappear! Because what you need, what you deserve, what you require in order to be the very best that you can be and to achieve what you want to achieve – Is acceptance. From yourself. Accept that you are the way you are. Fully EMBRACE the way you are. LOVE the way you are! You are not normal, you weren’t made normal, you weren’t born to BE normal. Stop trying to be! Stop trying to fit in. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life is that the more I show up unapologetically as ME – Say what I want – Do what I want – Be who I want...
by Cassie Howard | Mar 23, 2017 | Blogging |
It’s time for you to give in to what you REALLY want! It doesn’t have to be hard. It doesn’t have to take a long time. It doesn’t have to make you want to pull your hair out. You’ve just decided that it’s part of the experience, that’s “just how it its”, and so that’s become your reality. But you can change your reality in an instant. With meditation With mindset tweaks With books With people With journaling With mantras/affirmations With knowledge Decide what you want, how you want your reality to be different right now. What does that look like? What does that FEEL like? Why is it important to you? Why is it important to you NOW? Once you’ve decided, you need to commit. And then you need to be & do, meaning: be the person who gets what they want & do the things that need to be done to make that happen. Let’s break this whole “get what you want” thing down a bit, okay? STEP 1: DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT What do you want for your business? What kind of work do you want to be doing? Who do you want to be working with? How do you want to be spending your time working? Who do you want on your dream team? How would you be helping others/making a difference? What do you want for your finances? How much money do you want to be making each year, each month, each week, each day? How do you want to be receiving that money - where is it coming from? How often are you...
by Cassie Howard | Mar 21, 2017 | Business Basics |
I know. You’re probably thinking that subject line was click-bait, huh? Except it’s not. It’s completely true! Everything I know about business I learned from porn! When I worked in the adult industry from ’99 until the early 2000’s, I was pretty much the black sheep in my family. In fact, I guess I still am the black sheep, except today people also understand that I know what the fuck I’m doing and they just leave me be, HA! I remember being embarassed about it at first. Like I didn’t want people to know what I was doing.. except.. I was GETTING NAKED ON THE INTERNET, so it was only a matter of time until people found out! Needless to say, my family wasn’t too impressed (my mom, who I was still living with at the time, even shut off the internet, thinking that would stop me - but I just went to friends’ houses and used theirs). I went on to build a pretty successful business in the adult industry, making thousands of dollars a month just being me. It was my first glimpse into what wealth truly was and what it felt like. This morning I was thinking about how far I’ve come in the last 13 years of working online and I realized that pretty much everything I learned about business, I picked up by working in the adult industry. PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE AT YOUR CORE Even though, yes, people were paying me to take off my clothes, what I learned early on was that the majority of my followers wanted to...
by Cassie Howard | Mar 20, 2017 | Work At Home Mom |
There are certain things you must do every day if you want to grow your community, make an impact and increase the amount of money you earn. And the problem is that most people either don’t do these things, or don’t do them consistently, which of course leads to failure to some degree! And we can’t have that, now can we? If you’re going through the day without a list-of must-do tasks either written down or in your head (or both, ideally!), you are likely to forget something important, which will sabotage your success in a big way. So my question to you today is: “What have you done today?” What have you done to increase your income? What have you done to grow your community? What have you done to share your message? What have you done to establish strong connections and relationships? What have you done to improve your skill-set? In short: What have you done to up-level your life? Like I said, there are certain things that you absolutely MUST do every day. Here are 7 of them: #1. Share your message. First off: What IS your message and why is it important? Why does it mean so much to you? And why should it mean so much to your followers? Once you’ve got that nailed down, you need to share this message every single day, all day long, in a variety of ways. Infuse your message into ALL of your content: your blog posts, your livestreams, your photos, your videos, your emails, your social media posts, the conversations you have 1:1 with people. If people...
by Cassie Howard | Mar 19, 2017 | Business Basics |
It blows my mind when I follow someone new and I check out their social media profiles and notice they AREN’T SELLING ME ANYTHING. I mean… aren’t you in BUSINESS? I want to learn from you and all you’re providing me with is your once a day FB post update that isn’t even truly THAT helpful? Where’s the course? The workshop? The mentoring? The classes? The programs? LET ME BUY FROM YOU! I want to buy from you! I used to be of the belief that the more you sell, the more of a selfish asshole you are. I have since moved over to the other side of the coin: You’re a selfish asshole if you’re NOT selling! Think about it: You have all of this knowledge inside of you. You know exactly how to do something that someone else has no clue how to accomplish (but wants to). Just by opening your mouth and speaking, you can help someone. And you’re choosing NOT to? Really? That, right there, is the definition of a selfish asshole. 🙂 And I know what you’re thinking.. “But Cassie, I do help my community! I just don’t charge for it. That’s not being selfish, that’s being generous.” INCORRECT, MY FRIEND. Yes, of course you want to give free, VALUABLE content to your community. You want to do this all the time. You want to give an ABUNDANCE of it! But the truth is that most people won’t take action on what you teach them to do, because they’re not fully committed. They spend $0, and you teach them how to achieve _______ (something...
