I was always afraid of being myself. I thought people would hate the real me. They’d think I was too much.
Too loud
Too opinionated
Too vulgar
Too bold
Too direct
Too intense
I don’t like it when people don’t like me or don’t agree with me. It makes me crazy! So I try to please everyone, even though I know it’s an impossible task.
I’ve realized that in trying to please everyone, I end up turning into one of them..
The dreaded –
NORMALS.
*shudder*
When you try to please everyone, you end up conforming to BE like everyone else. Like all the NORMAL people. Instead of just being YOU!
And you, my friend, are NOT normal!
You are loud
You are opinionated
You are vulgar
You are bold
You are direct
You are intense
You are a badass boss and people need to either accept you for who you are or disappear!
Because what you need, what you deserve, what you require in order to be the very best that you can be and to achieve what you want to achieve –
Is acceptance. From yourself.
Accept that you are the way you are. Fully EMBRACE the way you are. LOVE the way you are!
You are not normal, you weren’t made normal, you weren’t born to BE normal. Stop trying to be! Stop trying to fit in. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life is that the more I show up unapologetically as ME –
Say what I want –
Do what I want –
Be who I want –
I attract the right people into my life and repel those that aren’t completely perfect for me.
This is true in all of my relationships: my friends, my clients, my collegues. Everyone who is in my life is in it because they fit the mold that I created back when I decided that I’d had enough dealing with assholes and wannabes.
I now only attract people into my life that are JUST like me. Perfect in every way, basically. 🙂
We laugh
We swear
We dance
We wake up before the sun
We give our life for what we believe in
We are high energy
We love
We give
We are unapologetically ourselves
You know –
I used to be afraid of saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, looking the wrong way, acting the wrong way.. I say “used to”, but that’s kinda bullshit, because I still have those fears ocassionally..
But what’s noticable about me now, compared to how I was just a few years ago, is how quickly I’m able to get over it. I can now feel worried that I’ll do the wrong thing, notice I’m feeling that way, tell myself to snap out of it, and then –
SNAP!
I’m out.
I’m back to being me again. Disinterested in what others with think of me. It’s short-lived, but again, I can snap out of it when the feeling returns. A constant battle for the people-pleaser in me!
If you’re not okay with being you, take a good hard look at who YOU are.
Are you acting in alignment?
Are you being true to yourself?
Are you saying what’s really on your mind or what you think people want to hear?
Are you doing things that make you feel good?
Are you HAPPY?
Let me tell you this –
If you’re not in love with YOU, no one else will be in love with you. You’re essentially repelling love.
The most important thing you can do for yourself is figure out how to love YOU. Embrace the crazy! Embrace the obscene! Embrace the non-normal!
Yes, you will piss people off
Yes, you will make others unhappy
Yes, you will likely hurt their feelings sometimes
Yes, you will end up with haters
People will disagree with you.
People will call you a bitch.
People will try to get you to stop being you and to be more like them –
NORMAL.
The ability to recognize this behaviour and REJECT it is one of the best things you can ever do for your sanity. There’s nothing worse than denying yourself the pleasure of being YOU.
You owe it to yourself
You owe it to your community
You owe it to your family
You owe it to your friends
To
Be
YOU.
That’s all we’ve ever wanted from you. 🙂
Fuck normal. You’re better than that!