One of the easiest ways I’ve found to attract a swarm of perfectly aligned, soulmate clients, is to be willing to politely decline the interest of anyone who is not that.
That means saying NO to the person who says they want to work with you or join your program, but who isn’t 100% the perfect fit.
That means turning down money, over and over again, if you know the person offering it, is not in alignment with who your dreamy soulmate clients actually ARE.
This is extremely difficult.
On one hand, you want the money, right? Hard to pass up cold, hard cash when someone is wavin’ it in your face.
And also, you don’t want to be “mean” and tell them “no, sorry, it’s not a good fit”.
(I still feel bad saying no to people, but I would feel even worse saying yes to someone I don’t actually wanna say yes to, ya know?)
Most people who are new in their business say yes to everyone who offers them cash. Been there, done that, hated it, vowed to never to it again.
The problem with this is that when you say YES to someone who is not, in fact, a yes, then you’re aligning yourself with someone who you don’t actually enjoy working with –
Can you help them to get the results they desire? Maybe.
But do you actually WANT to work with them, spend time with them, talk to them? Do you actually BELIEVE in them? Do you really believe they have what it takes?
If the answer is “no” or “not sure” to any of those things, they are not a good fit and you need to politely decline their interest.
In my first few months of coaches, I would say yes to anyone who was interested in hiring me. I didn’t know that I had a say in the matter. I remember sometimes I’d think “ugh, why them?”, as I signed them up LOL.
All of that to say, I didn’t enjoy myself, and they probably didn’t either (seeing as how they basically disappeared of the face of the earth after working together).
Could I help those people? Yes, of course. But I didn’t WANT TO. I didn’t believe in their ability. Or I didn’t like them as a person. Or I easily got annoyed with them. Or I didn’t believe in what they were doing in their biz.
I still feel kind of scared to admit all of that. I know people will judge my decisions from back then. But it is what it is. I fucked up.
And I learned.
And now I don’t do that shit. 
I turn down people every week, both for 1:1, events I’m promoting, even programs (I’ve been known to refund people if I see their payment go through on one of my group programs and I know that they’re not a good fit).
Most people are grateful (“thanks for being honest about it”), and they go off to find a tribe & a mentor that IS a good fit. Some people are total assholes that think you owe them something, and they won’t hesitate to tell you that you’re a stuck-up bitch for saying “no” to them.
A price I’m happily willing to pay to protect my energy and my space.
It’s so important to me now to only say yes to people who feel like a HELL YES to me. If you don’t, then sorry, you’re not gonna get past the front gates into my world.
Set your standards.
Know what you’re not willing to accept when it comes to your ideal peeps.
Know exactly who your soulmate clients are, and speak only to them.
My soulmate peeps?
Say YES to my offers without hesitation; they KNOW in their gut I’m the right mentor for them, and don’t question it.
Are independent and take responsibility for their results (or lack thereof, in some cases).
Show up consistently in their biz every single day, ready and EXCITED to make shit happen.
Have big goals, big dreams, and are unwilling to settle for anything less.
Are high-vibe, positive, and always in a great mood!
I don’t work with anyone who’s negative, indecisive and can’t make a decision to save their life, unwilling to put in the work, who hates the hustle, never invests in themselves, or who allows others to make decisions for them.
Doesn’t matter what they offer me.
The answer is a firm “no”, every time.
Learn to say NO to those who aren’t a HELL YES. It’s one skill (and yes, it very much IS a skill!) that will serve you well in business (and life)!
Know what you want.
Know what you don’t.
And act accordingly. This is how you attract a swarm of perfectly aligned, soulmate clients.