You Are Not A Fuck Up

You Are Not A Fuck Up

Sometimes I feel as though we tend to hide from our failures, keep them quiet, pretend they never happened..

Because we’re terrified of what people will think of us if they find out.

But the truth is, we all have failures (and I hesitate to even call them “failures” because to me, failures = lessons).

We all fuck up.

We all expect one thing, and get the exact opposite.

Like that program you launched, were super proud of and excited about, that only 1 person signed up for.

Embarassing.

Or that email you sent to your list of thousands, the one you truly felt was impactful, that no one even responded to.

Embarassing.

Or what about that client that hired you, that you truly believed in, who didn’t get the results she expected when she worked with you?

Embarassing.

But what if it wasn’t embarassing? What if it was all just a part of the bigger story of your impact on this world?

What if, you “failing” or “messing up”, was exactly what was SUPPOSED TO happen, to get you to where you ultimately want to be?

How would you show up then?

How would you hold yourself?

What thoughts would you think?

What beliefs would you let go of?

How would you treat YOURSELF?

Instead of allowing these “failures” to hold you back and keep you stuck in the suck, start seeing them as messages from the universe and lessons you need to learn.

I’ve had this happen in a big way with money.

Repeatedly.

I would make a lot of money, and then the next thing I knew, all of that money was gone.

Not because I suck at making money or because I’m a bad money manager –

But because I didn’t actually learn anything from the last time I lost all of my money, and so I just ended up doing the same damn thing over and over again.

It wasn’t until I realized –

“Holy shit. I did it again. I made a ton of money and now I’m back to $0. What is the lesson here?”

And that lesson, in my experience, was that I was spending it all instead of putting some away, combined with the fact that I was relying solely on ONE stream of income (1:1 coaching).

It wasn’t until I asked myself the question “what is the lesson here?” that I realized those two main issues with my money.

And so I shifted them both.

I set up automatic savings into multiple different bank accounts for various things (such as taxes, bonuses, operating expenses, personal pay, etc.) and I diversifying my income by adding in group programs, membership communities, DIY courses, masterminds, events, products, affiliate marketing, etc.

Instead of feeling totally embarassed about my money situation (though there was definitely SOME embarassment there, for sure), I focused on what the lesson could be, understood the lesson, and then took action on it.

This is how you need to be treating your “failures” if you ever want to stop experiencing them.

You are not a bad person.

You are not a bad coach.

You are not a bad anything.

You’re a human being who has some lessons to learn, and that’s all there is to it.

Understand what those lessons are, and truly learn from the experiences you go through, and you will come out the other side - I promise you that.